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One thing I don’t get is why flying monkeys sometimes call the police as a way to ‘discard’ or control someone after a breakup. It seems like an extreme measure when they could just ignore or cut off contact. Why do you think they go to the police instead? Have you experienced this, and how did it affect your ability to protect yourself?
Hi Eli,
Your question about why flying monkeys sometimes involve the police in their attempts to discard or control someone is really important. It's a complex issue that often stems from a mix of emotional distress, manipulation, and sometimes even misunderstandings about legal processes.
Firstly, when someone experiences a breakup, especially one that is painful or unexpected, they may feel a strong urge to regain control or seek validation of their feelings. Involving the police can sometimes seem like a way to assert their version of events as the truth. This is particularly true if the person feels wronged or believes that their ex-partner has acted inappropriately. In some cases, the involvement of law enforcement might be a misguided attempt to seek justice or to feel like they are taking a definitive step to end the relationship.
Additionally, flying monkeys—those who act on behalf of a primary manipulator—might involve the police as part of a broader campaign to isolate and discredit their target. This can be particularly distressing because it often involves making false allegations or exaggerating minor incidents to create a narrative that paints the target in a negative light. It’s a tactic designed to create confusion, fear, and ultimately, to push the target away from their support systems.
If you’ve experienced this, it’s crucial to document everything and seek legal advice. Keeping a detailed record of any interactions with the police, as well as any communications from the flying monkeys, can help protect you. It’s also important to reach out to friends, family, or a support group who can offer emotional support and practical advice.
Have you had any experiences with this kind of behavior, or do you have any tips on how to handle it effectively? Your insights could really help others who might be going through a similar situation.
No. Many people join while still trying to make sense of their experience. If you are dealing with gaslighting, emotional manipulation, coercive control, trauma bonds, or a relationship that left you feeling confused and unsafe, the forum can still be a helpful place to compare experiences and find support. It is not limited to romantic relationships. People often experience toxic dynamics with parents, siblings, ex-partners, friends, or even managers and coworkers. If the pattern includes manipulation, control, guilt, intimidation, or emotional abuse, the support and recovery discussions may still be relevant. Yes. You can usually start by reading, replying to smaller discussions, or sharing only what feels safe. Many members begin with limited details because privacy matters, especially when recovering from abuse. You can decide how much context to give and disclose more only if you feel comfortable. A support forum offers peer understanding, shared coping ideas, and validation from people with similar experiences. It does not replace therapy, diagnosis, or legal advice. For many members, it works best as a companion to professional help, especially when they need everyday encouragement between appointments. You can still benefit from the forum. Many people are not yet ready to make decisions, and reading about others’ experiences can help clarify patterns and reduce self-blame. The forum may also help you think more safely about boundaries, emotional protection, and next steps at your own pace.Frequently Asked Questions
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